Wednesday

Don't Stick to Your Problems If you ever want to be Rich

Am just from a long journey, but my mind is steel stuck on everything that my eyes fell on for past two day. I had gone to visit a family am related to. What really got my attention is the kind of life these people are in despite the fact that they were once among the richest families in the area.

What happened that led them to a life of poverty is the fact that their father never gave them some secondary wants. One says he was not given enough pocket money therefore he dropped from school, while the other one still blames poor parenting despite the fact that he's know almost 50years of age.

Talk of resources and you'll get the best in this particular family, but am sorry to say they are living in poverty! Can you imagine having a piece of land located right beside a fresh water permanent-river, what kind faming can't you do??? In fact even if faming is not your thing, -that river is capable to generate good amount of hydro-power. There is a lot one can do with hydro-power, and generate income. True? Off-course!

After deep thinking I came to terms with the saying, "poverty is in the mind". Ah...! I watched this man (one among the two who continued with his education) explaining himself about how poor he is, how he wish to go to the city to look for a better job (yet he works in a government office at the grass root level)... Oh my... THE POWER OF A WRONG MINDSET.

Surely... It is true to say that, "no matter someone's level of education or amount of possessions, the top deciding factor on the quality of life one lives is solely on the mindset. Yes you may have talents but you must set your mind to raise up.

Life is not about the past experiences, what you currently have or don't, or what people think about you. It's about what you think about yourself. The power to be the person you ever wished is in you. In fact it's true to say, poverty is a choice!

Life is always never fair, and that shouldn't mean we rest on that fact. Literally, the unfairness should work to propel us towards a better future. Never measure your life using the past since the past is gone and will never come forth.

Okay, you were abused and you know the pain therein, know take it positively- convert that pain into a virtue. Help as many kids as possible! You never attended school because of poverty, sponsor the poor! You were a drug addict but managed to stop, fund rehabilitation centers! Work on your mindset and you'll discover tremendous opportunities and resources that will add value to your life.  

Thursday

Compacting The Fear of Rejection

Let's begin first by unveiling the brutal truth about  who really faces the fear of rejection?... you'll discover that you are not alone. Everyone is a victim in this category of fear, which includes; presidents, pastors, police officers, children and so on... In fact to be honest, other than those who've mastered the art of compacting it, everybody else still, and always suffer from  it.

A child has a fear of being left by the parent, a parent has a fear of being disrespected by the kids, the president has a fear of being overthrown, a husband has a fear of being replaced, the same as the wife who has a fear of loosing his man. A student has a fear of failing exams- and so on. All these are fears that suggest rejection in one way or another. 

Fear of rejection will always pop from different avenues and that calls for essential knowledge of how we can always compact it. You don't have to succumb to it while you can live a fear-free-life. Bellow is how  to do it in a simple way;

(#1). Know it exists
Simple! Just know that the fear of rejection exists, and it's a common thing to everybody. That empowers you to know what to expect in life. The feeling of fear will come but don't follow it as it will lead you into worry. Be calm and watch the feelings subside over time. Don't act, just relax and know that it's just a feeling. 

(#2). Accept facts
Always note that only 25 percent of the people you meet will ever like you. This is a research that was done, and has been proved to be true. Another 25 percent  will instantly reject you the moment they see you, 25 percent may like you but can easily change their minds, while the remaining 25 percent may hate you at the fast place, but may change their minds along the journey of life. So why go for numbers while it's clearly impossible to be loved by everybody? Enjoy in the small fraction that you are certain of being accepted.

(#3). Love being who you are
Stop being "a-living-fake", embrace who you are and stop rejecting yourself. Fearing rejection can lead to a fake life. It makes you behave robotically because you are trying to hide your weakness in the quest to please everybody around.

Living "fake-ee" makes you appear wired to people and these pushes them even further from you. However when you are original, people tend to gain trust on your character and they end up being pulled towards you. The ideal way to compact this fear of rejection is by being realistic in life, accepting facts and loving who you are.