The 3 Top Secretes you Must know About your Friends, Spouse, Relative...

It's not recommendable for one to live without friends, they are a necessity that you can't overlook. In fact even the people who pride in having no friends in their life do lie because it is impossible. The fact is, there is always a person to relate to whether it's parents, spouse, relatives, workmates schoolmates and so on. All these should be in your list of friends.

These are important people in your personal life but there are some facts that you must learn to accept so as to ever remain at peace with them. The tips below will help you better understand human psychology in regard to friendships and relationships;

#1.They must talk
Despite the fact that someone is a dearest friend to you, always know that they can speak against you. Yes, that's the nature of mankind, but that doesn't mean that they are not genuine to the friendship/relation! No. It simply means, since people have mouths they must talk (backbite). Never end a friendship simply because someone backbite you. See, even your own mother can backbite you, and that doesn't change her status as a mother!

#2.They Have their own life.
We are sometimes tempted to think that since someone claims to be dear to us, they are obligated to live and do exactly as how we want. We even go to extends of feeling offended when we see them making decision that are against our wish.

For instance you might want a fried to loose weigh just because you dislike a bulky body, only to realize that they even don't bother about. Note: everybody has their life and this should not interfere with your friendship. You can only advise him or her but can never choose the kind of life they want to live.

#3. They are not responsible for our happiness
This is another very important point to note. In fact when I personally came to understand this, I received great relief in my life. See, we often think that since someone is a dear friend, they are responsible to make us as happy as possible every-time they are around.

Whether it's a spouse, mother, father workmate or anybody closer to you, always note that the level of your happiness is determined by you personally and not a friend. See happiness comes from within, it about deciding to be happy even when situations don't allow... Okay?. BIG TIME, as you decided to keep your value adding friends


How to Deal with Negative Minded People without being Negative

Life around negative minded people can be extremely challenging and more so when you don't know how to deal with them. The common traits of a negative minded individual include; ever feeling bored, always seeing impossibilities, easily controlled by situations, selfishness and overlay controlling.

Oops, hope you are not negative minded yourself, but if you find the above traits in your set of behaviors- then this is an opportunity for you to correct where necessary. However if not the following ideas can help out if you leave with individuals. One thing that is irresistible is the fact that we can't completely avoid these so called negative minded folks because they are our relatives, spouse, friends workmates or even neighbours.

The first and most important principle is to understand that these people have "behavioral problems". They are somewhat bound into seeing the negative side of life. Hence no matter what you do, it's a waste of time to try and expect any complement from them.

Another important aspect to note while around such folks is that they are used to being negative. Hence this is part of their lives, so, always accept what come out and put it aside. Don't spent your time waiting for them to change, cause they won't. Live your life and do what you must do. Don't allow the negative feeling control you cause you are not the actual problem. Do what you must do but never allow negative minded people to guide you cause they'll never show you anything good. 


Don't Allow your Trust for People Steal your Inner Peace...

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We all know that there is nobody in this world who is worthy of 100percent trust, yet we sometime find ourselves wanting to trust people for even beyond 1000perncent. This is being unreasonable, and when such a kind of trust backfires, it result to total hatred, pain, disbelieve and even suicidal thoughts. Okay trusting a your marriage partner, friend, father, mother, relative and children is okay but ....

Let's analyse the "but"and see the exact way for measuring the level of trust we ought to offer. Let's open our minds to the truth, which is;

#1. Love yourself fast
Whenever you wanna trust someone, ensure that there is that level of healthy self-love. Don't just give out the whole of your trust to people without considering a "but" in your mind. Or simply; love BUT always be sure that the person you trust can betray you. See, there is nothing you can do about it as nobody is really 100percent dependable. Only GOD! This fact is not meant to destroy your morals but to affirm them. Simply be mature and understand humans rather than being negative


Want a perfectly happy marriage? Then you Must Give-Up on These 8 Things

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1. Give up the past 

The past is a gone story and you out to let it go. We so often don't accept to allow the bygone to remain bygones, and this makes us reprimand ourselves and our partners for the mistakes they did. Having the past dominate is completely unfair to a marriage relationship. See, you ought to accept the fact that you cannot change what has happened already. Whether there exists an illegitimate child or abortion story somewhere, all these are bygones and if left to control a marriage relationship, there can never be peace.


Are You Really Wise in that Marriage Life? Here's the 5 Point Truth Meter

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Have you ever wondered why some couples seem happier in their marriages despite the fact that marriage life is generally full of hardships, strive and strain? Do you ever ask yourself what makes your marriage not as satisfactory as you want it to be? Or in simpler terms, do you consider yourself to be wise in your relationship with your partner?

See, the stories you here allover the media about "love turned sower", bride kills husband during 8th day of their honeymoon", "husband kills wife or the opposite", or even "pastor compromising his integrity", all these a just a mare reflection of what's going on in today's marriages. Otherwise, there is a bigger problem with relationships and especially marriage life. Okay, let's come to you and me. Whether man or woman, educated or not, you MUST yearn to be WISE if you are to ever enjoy marriage.

Viola! Here, is how to exactly evaluate your marriage life and whether you are playing wise:

#5. WORDS.
Aha! Can you remember your first days when you begun seeing your partner? And, can you try to recall your use of words? Off-course you'll notice a big difference and the thing is, both of you were wise in words usage in those early days. So what happened, why the harshness while talking to your partner.

And in fact if you are keen you'll notice that you go to extends of abusing the once adorable partner. See, marriage life is about growth. The the big question is, have you grown positively on your words usage? Do still call him/her darling, sweetie, dear, sugar or tomato source! If not, you are heading to hell, so please reconsider your ways.

See, being wise simply means handling things the proper way, or dealing with your partner in a smart way so as not to hurt them, offend, or make them feel lonely. To rewind a bit of your life, you can approve that there was a lot of touching, caressing, and hugging during the onset of the marriage life.

This is an automatic form of wisdom given by nature (law of attraction in relationships) , but now the problem is, you never grew it further. If you want to remain wise in your marriage life, you must remain relevant to satisfying the "touch-need" on your partner. 

Do you give words of affirmations to your partner anymore? Okay you think that words of affirmation are no longer important? ... You are dead! ...Oh my am sorry, wanted to tell you that your partner might get that from somewhere illegitimate. I don't mean to be rude by that, all what is there is for you to open your wisdom eyes.

If you want your marriage life to work out then be smart, do what you must do. Tell your partner how beautiful or handsome they are. In fact, import some flattery works and use them as many time as possible in your marriage. Feel and encourage your partner and he/she will consider you important in their well being. 

This has turned out to be history in marriages"hope not in yours". If you want to know the level of your wisdom, just look at how intimate your relationship is. Oops sorry for being brutally honest, but am helping you! The simple fact is: you managed to be intimate in the fast place or at the beginning of your relationship, ...why not now?. Wake up and do the thing! Keep the fare of love burning and stop complaining.

So fur you ought to have known the different unchangeable facts about marriage life and your partner. Okay, lets shade some light. Marriage fact #1-- you must know that life is short and the only safe way to enjoy it, is in your marriage. #2. It's your responsibility to always satisfy your partner. #3. You have to make things happen if they are to happen.#4. Love is contagious so you must love your partner to get it back. Be wise!